A loving, peaceful relationship is in reach!
Ready to STOP attracting partners who confuse and mistreat you, and meet healthy, happy people who love you as you are?
Are you done doubting yourself and feeling drained and distracted?
Would you love to heal the relationship you already have? It may be possible!
The world needs more affordable relationship coaching.
My weekly support group has a low monthly fee. It's professionally-coached and tailored to each individual as much as possible. Because the world needs us to heal our wounding now and lift each other UP in our relationships, not continue to struggle and tear each other down.
This group coaching experience can compliment or accelerate any therapy or other work you're already doing. It can give you a fantastic lifeline if you haven't been able to afford private, individual or couples counseling.
As a group, we meet by Zoom once or twice a week, and I bring in guest coaches/ healing practitioners as well.
IMAGINE
Freedom and joy ARE within reach!
Connect + break patterns
Discover how to connect the dots between your own past wounding, and what's not working in your life. Once you see the destructive pattern, you can finally break free of it. You can finally change your patterns for good, and watch as your relationships evolve for the better.
Create new boundaries and positive communication habits.
Heal for real
Heal the trauma-based ROOT of your troubles, and experience lasting peace. Learn to stay emotionally regulated and happy most of the time. No more backsliding when someone spins you around emotionally. No more anxiety, people pleasing, or overexplaining. Learn to fully trust and be trusted by your partner, even if it doesn't seem possible because of betrayal or your deep wounding.
Rise above
Learn DISCERNMENT for carefully engaging with (or avoiding) predatory types like narcissists and avoidants. Spot them a mile away and avoid getting sucked into their nonsese. NO LONGER be triggered by others: Delete that power from them! And stop inadvertently causing friction at work or accidentally raising your kids to be dysfunctional.
Be a Kingdom couple
Enjoy new courage that radiates out to all situations, and feel much more joy through your relationships. Set a good example for your loved ones, and community, of I Corinthians 13 love. Attract your Godly mate, or breathe new life into your current relationship. Become a Kingdom couple, happy and secure so you can team up in total support of each other and do the work God is calling you to.
"Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things...
...When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things."
~ I Corinthians 13:4-7; 11
Listen, I get it.
Nobody wants to
"heal their trauma."
But your deeply hidden, unhealed trauma wounding is unquestionably holding you back from
having a safe, loving, lasting relationship,
and from experiencing longterm peace and joy.
Taking action
Healing is real.
If you're truly tired of looping in your old patterns, OR if you'd like to start dating on a good foundation, it's time to take mature ownership of your trauma patterns.
Get crystal clarity on your own past wounding (even if it wasn't your fault) that has caused bad relationships, losses, confusion, chaos, and undesirable situations.
Our professionally-coached group for relationship recovery is a loving, safe space to do just that.
In doing so, you can open space in your life for a loving, joyful relationship with someone who values you for YOU and is ready to support you and grow with you every step of the way.
First and foremost, that someone is God.
And as you truly heal, God may also have a special person in mind for you who can be your exclusively intimate mate, with whom you can enjoy a totally fulfilling partnership, if you are not already with that person. If you are, and your relationship needs some tender loving care, my coaching will help you both build that totally fulfilling partnership.
You CAN be safe and supported as God truly wishes you to be, to do your beautiful work in the world.
Regarding emotional dysregulation
Escape CPTSD
Did you or your partner grow up in relationship with a narcissist, avoidant, bipolar, alcoholic, addict, or other neglectful or destructive personality type?
Was a caregiver absent physically or emotionally?
Were you abused by a caregiver or church official?
Do you continue to attract abusive or "absent" people without meaning to?
Have you been suffering from addiction to alcohol, pornography, relationships, or working constantly?
Is your social life full of chaos and uncertainty? Or loneliness and boredom?
Do you struggle with your health or weight?
Are your finances a mess?
If one or more of the above is true, you may be suffering emotionally, mentally, and physically from Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or CPTSD*, typically originating in childhood as a result of traumatic events or circumstances. Some of these circumstances may not have even happened to you; the traumatic effects of them could have been passed down through your generational line.
*This statement is not to be construed as a diagnosis.
CPTSD can cause you to be emotionally dysregulated, often anxious, with your nervous system feeling "jacked up" in constant fight or flight syndrome, even if you think it's a normal part of your personality. Or you may feel numb, unable to allow yourself to feel anything, as a protective mechanism you learned.
You may be unable to resist petty, dramatic, knee-jerk reactions when things aren't to your liking. You may get overexcited when starting a relationship and get carried away quickly, then let down quickly. Or you may abandon the other person, not fully understanding why you want to.
You may actually be addicted to your own stress hormones and unable to discern when someone in your life is a bad influence or a good influence. And especially when under the influence of bad people, it literally feels like being trapped in a constricted room where your body is tensed up and you can barely breathe or think straight.
The good news is, even if you have been diagnosed with CPTSD, it IS curable. It starts with connecting the dots between your current behaviors and relationships that make you feel confused or hurt, and the past wounding that long ago started you on the pattern path of attracting these people.
You are invited to take a new, healthy, peaceful, love-filled path, free of CPTSD, with our group and with Jesus.
There is real hope for you to live the calm, confident, healthy, wealthy, and fruitful life of your dreams, in true emotional freedom, with the people of your dreams.
And it's much closer than you think, because this is what God earnestly wants for you.
"And shall not God avenge His own Elect, which cry day and night unto Him, though He bear long with them?" - Luke 18:7
EVERY WEEK IN OUR GROUP SETTING WE WORK ON:
01
Finally CLEARLY connecting the dots between your past traumas and your present behavior patterns-- including pushing GOOD things and people away.
02
Learning how to get emotionally regulated when you get triggered and your nervous system throws you all out of whack and starts making you do and say things you’ll regret.
03
Learning how to CHEMICALLY rewrite your brain patterns, developed during traumatic events, and end the loop of negative thinking and actions.
04
Learning all the RED FLAGS related to YOUR traumas, so you can avoid destructive patterns and relationships from now on.
05
Learning what a HEALTHY and SAFE, CONSCIOUS relationship looks and feels like (it's NOT really what you see in the movies and shows).
06
Feeling totally SAFE to place your trust in God AND in your own discernment. Deeply feel your worth, so you will attract healthy, truly loving people who want to heal and grow with you, not unhealed energy vampires like narcissists and avoidants.
A few happy clients...
“Robin's insightful approach allowed me to explore and validate my negative feelings rooted in childhood experiences, alleviating a significant amount of pressure. The tools she provided me with feel tailored to my circumstances & create a clear pathway to successfully navigating the stress and anxiety in my daily life. With this newfound self-understanding, I look forward to applying these valuable tips to real-life situations. Originally planning for just one session, I am now certain that I will reach out to Robin again..”
Nancy D., Behavioral Health Worker
“Robin absolutely brings perspectives into self awareness that will have lasting, positive results. From day 1, she layed a foundation to stand on about the human psyche that left me with a much better understanding and a wanting to learn more. Robin’s gift is bringing you out of your inner head and aptly guiding you to go deep within yourself and discover where habits, behaviors and thoughts REALLY stem from. And not just deal with it but truly heal. And with this new knowledge, I can confidently show up in my life from the workplace to my family life and own it! Work with Robin, she will transform you too.”
Chris Tucker, Aviation Mechanic
“My ability to listen more effectively and speak more compassionately has grown immensely since beginning my discussions with Robin. This has improved my relationship with my lover beyond measure! As a bonus, my professional interactions with my peers and my clients have brought returns in value far beyond the cost of these therapeutic sessions. Robin's friendly communication style made it easy to open up to her with sensitive issues, as she's also very respectful and clearly values integrity, privacy, and authenticity. This enabled me to keep our discussions real and raw, while she kept them relevant and actionable.”
Michael L., Financial Analyst
“Going from where I was this morning, replaying some traumatic events in my life that recently happened, to this now moment, I don’t know what you did, but I feel transformed… I was somehow able to jump into a timeline three months from now and literally imagine what my end result is going to be. And imagining that, it gave me the confirmation I needed… okay, you know what, I can do this, I can break free from my parents, I can break free from my traumas, I can break free from my stories. In my eleven years of healing, I’ve never experienced that before on a call… Never has it …felt like it was going to be a lasting change because in the back of may mind I’m like okay, I’m feeling this now but my mind and ego are like yeah but you’re going to spiral back down. I don’t feel that battle between my mind, ego and heart anymore…. My heart is willing to do whatever it took, but my mind and ego are like wait a sec, you’ve tried that before and look where it got you, it got taken away so what’s the point of even trying anymore.
I don’t feel that anymore.”
Michael Aurelius, Affiliate Marketer
“Robin is nothing short of amazing. One valuable lesson I learned from working with Robin... I had to learn to really love myself, instead of only expecting my partner to love me the way I wanted to be loved..... Because I really did not know how to love me.... She also helped me really understand and further develop myself confidence. I am now able to have a more heartfelt, successful conversation with my partner. ...Sometimes difficult things have to be talked about, and I realize it's coming from love. Not a judgment, not a criticism, not a complaint but pure love because he wants what's best for me and I want what's best for him. My love life is so much better after working with Robin. I am so grateful.”
Jean Virnig, Occupational Therapist
“Robin's a fearless genius. Not that she's immune to fear it's that she's done the hard work to overcome her shadow side; and it's not that she was born a genius necessarily (maybe tho haha) but more that she's learned how to step INTO her genius and she can help you do the same. Bring THAT to your current or next relationship and you'll have a much lighter and brighter future ahead. She's helped me in so many ways that have more to do with my relationship with my SELF, so that my relationships both romantic and platonic have been endlessly more easy & fruitful. Best decision you could make is to work with Robin - highly recommended.”
Schroeder N., Voice Coach
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