September 21, 2024 by Robin O, Lifted By Love

From broken and haunted, to on-purpose and engaged to the love of my life in 9 months flat... God made sure my testimony would be a shining example of the blessings He will heap on you when you devote yourself to Him AND seek your inner healing through our master healer, Jesus Christ.

If you had told me at the beginning of this year that, by September:

I’d have a lovely house in a safe neighborhood, 3 blocks from my kids’ high school, 

I’d have a successful trauma and relationship coaching business, plus a growing YouTube channel,

I’d be able to quit my spine-wrecking job driving for Lyft, with several debts paid off, 

I would devote my life to Christ and He would heal me of decades of incredibly painful trauma wounding,

I’d begin to heal my broken relationships with my sister and my parents, 

My kids and my partner and I would finally have a beautiful church community, 

My teenaged son would come to Christ, start evangelizing his friends, and be recognized by our pastor as having the light of God on him, 

I’d be baptized to Jesus and into the church membership,

AND 

I’d be shopping for a wedding dress to be married this fall to the longtime love of my life,

honestly, now,

I’d have looked over my shoulder to see who you were really talking to.

That’s because at the beginning of 2024, I was as far from that vision as I could be. 

I was living alone in a tiny, overpriced, overcrowded apartment complex, on the edge of town, schlepping the kids 10 miles each way to school, band practice, their Dad’s house, and events. 

I was a seeing (for a year, long distance) a guy who turned out to be an angry, broke, lazy, pot-smoking, grandiose narcissist, whom I let charm me out of my money, energy and hope. 

I finally booted him out of my life at the beginning of February, and he left a demon in my house. Yes, it was proven to be a demon, that wouldn’t let me sleep at night, or ever, for more than an hour. I’ll tell this freaky story, and why I had fallen in with that guy (trauma wounding decisions at their finest) in another blog post.

So I got sick for the first time in 9 years and missed a bunch of work. I got dangerously behind on my income, to the point that every day I had less than $100 to my name and had to keep driving Lyft to survive, because it was the only thing I could do that paid me daily, to contend with my almost daily bills.

Add to this that my car kept breaking down and needing expensive repairs, which I kept paying for with my last shreds of credit. It’s a 2017 Kia Soul. Google it and you’ll see it has an engine doomed to fail by 86,000 miles. Not a great car for someone utterly dependent on their car to survive. 

I had a mad scramble every month to make my rent, car payment, and insane stack of debt bills every month on my own without the help Mr. Narcissist had promised me, or the help my longtime partner Christopher usually gave us (I’d broken up with him).

All the while, out of sheer scrappiness and true desire to help people no matter how broke I was, I kept coaching people during Lyft rides, and sometimes by phone in paid sessions at $60/hour. In addition to some online networking leads, I had a sign in the backseat: I’M A RELATIONSHIP EXPERT, ASK ME ANYTHING.

Ironically, I had sworn for years that (after two failed marriages including multiple betrayals and abuse) I would never get married again, even to Christopher, my best friend and romantic partner for most of the past four years.

But one night Christopher and I were talking in his apartment, which God had, by a bizarre series of events, made sure was in the same building as mine.

We were reminiscing through all the times our relationship had fallen apart, and all the even more numerous wonderful times we'd had together. All the hundreds of shared values and outlooks we have. How we never grew tired of being together in the same room or exploring new places. How faithfully and patiently he had stood by me and helped me and my kids, even when I was seeing other people. How God had kept us together, and how much I and my kids loved him. But how we had each strayed far from God due to our trauma wounding.

And we realized, God had saved us for each other, so that we could save each other. 

In that week we ended up bringing each other to Christ. Me, a disillusioned new age coach who grew up Catholic. He, a lukewarm, strayed Christian who grew up Lutheran and still read the Bible, but didn't live it.

I fell on my knees and begged God’s forgiveness for… literally everything I could think of, including all the things I’d done out of my extensive trauma wounding. And I vowed to devote my life to Him, if He would just get rid of the demon in my apartment and help me and Christopher save our relationship. 

I’m making a video and a blog post to detail that prayer so you can use it, too. Because what happened next was ASTONISHING.

Here are just some of the miracles that immediately flowed into our lives when we repented and declared Jesus as our Savior:

The demon disappeared from my apartment, never to return - EXCEPT a few times when I was willfully disobedient to God.

The money I needed just came in… even when I was exhausted to the bone from working for it and couldn’t do one thing more.

People, training, and resources I needed to launch my trauma coaching business appeared. One example, my $97/month website platform was replaced with this much more beautiful, capable one on Duda for just $25 a month. 

I honed a unique laser coaching process that has proven extremely effective in helping people address their trauma wounding and become closer to their partners and, most importantly, to God.

I was even paying off small debts despite appearing “broke.” It literally was like the loaves and the fishes, the way money and time were being warped and stretched so I didn’t have to worry about a thing.

Christopher and I started reading our Bibles every day, discussing at length and truly trying to live God's Word and commandments. The Bible used to be gobbledygook to me, but now the Holy Spirit gave me discernment and even woke me up in the morning telling me what passages to seek out for answers. 

We prayed for and soon found the perfect church for us (neither of us had stepped foot in a church for decades), and we take the kids every week. 

We started praying over my children and watched my teenaged son come to Christ just weeks later and start evangelizing his friends, praying for healing in others, and seeing it granted. 

Meanwhile, I was briefly in therapy to try to “deal” with my parents, who had tried to launch an intervention on my being “mentally ill” and (it felt) turned my entire family against me. I was seeking ways to stop being emotionally deregulated and anxious, and to decide whether to completely cut off speaking to my family or not. 

The therapist gave me lots of “coping tools” based on classic psychotherapy that did not help me at all. One day I realized I should honor my mother and father as God commanded us. I prayed for forgiveness, real forgiveness this time, and long story short, Jesus healed my relationships with them and my sister enough to know that I do NOT want to cut them out of my life, and I also feel much less triggered anymore by their actions or views of me. 

I fired the therapist after three sessions, and after a few weeks, realized I had left habitual emotional dysregulation behind for good. My nervous system and mind has remained calm through all circumstances, with only a few exceptions in which I was, with Jesus’s help, able to re-regulate quickly.

Christopher and I started premarital counseling and decided to go ahead and move in together, as long as we could find a house near the kids' school that had separate bedrooms so we were honoring God's commandments against premarital sex. We each worked on purifying ourselves in the eyes of the Lord, in order to be married in good grace.

We prayed for a house near my kids’ school. In total faith, I let my lease run out without renewing, not knowing where we were going to live or how we would afford the move. I got a surprise tax return of $3600. The exact amount we needed, in time for all the deposits and moving expenses. We found a perfect house three blocks from their school and within a mile of their dad’s house, our premarital counselor, and a beautiful park. The house has an enclosed dining room that Christopher uses as a bedroom until we're married. Later, it will be our music room and library -- full of all the Bibles and Christian books we're collecting.

I was still trying to catch up on my income and driving for Lyft. My car passed 107,000 miles without breaking down again. In fact, against all odds, with careful maintenance, it was running great. 

But I kept getting clear signs and messages to stop and focus on my trauma coaching, although I couldn’t imagine how I was going to make money and pay my bills while I ramped up my systems for that and built a clientele. 

One day I was singing along with for KING & COUNTRY's song “For God is With Us” , and the double suction-cup Lyft sign on my dashboard popped off and fell down. My son was with me, and he was like WOW! I drove straight home and launched my coaching business for real. During the days I  devoted myself to launching my YouTube channel and started prospecting again, I earned or received almost $2000 through the grace of God, which more than covered what I needed at the time, so I didn't have to drive.

Christopher and I were baptized, in a gorgeous lake - the way we'd envisioned it, not in a baptismal font indoors.

And a week later he proposed to me. This is to be my first and only Christian marriage, sanctioned by God, to a godly man He chose for me and kept me at least physically near the entire time, who has dedicated his own life to the Lord. That means this time my marriage is irrevocable: divorce is not an option. 

Again by the grace of Jesus, I was ready to say yes to Christopher. In another post, I’ll explain my delicate healing process this year around irrevocable decisions -- something my abandonment wounding fought bitterly all my life to protect me from, but that Jesus healed in a few days when I worked through it and then laid it at His feet.

Last night my son came to me and told me his older sister (an atheist) is finally feeling her heart open to God.

Are you getting the picture? 

When we involve Jesus in our trauma healing, and stay close to God in thought, word and deed, He heaps an abundance of blessings on us. 

And there's plenty of proof of this in the Bible, which is why it's fun to read it every day.

That is the message the Holy Spirit wants me to share with you today:
God provides, provides, provides, and heals EVERYTHING, as long as we stay close to Him.

This is actually the first time I’ve written out my entire testimony of this year. I honestly can’t even count all the miracles and prayers answered. This is just a "best of" list.

No, everything I’ve just described was NOT the journey of a few years, as it would seem. 

This all happened so far THIS YEAR. 

Know this: With some hustle, a plan, a lot of heart, and unwavering faith in God’s will for you and in yourself, 

You.

Can.

Do.

Anything.

In Christ.

Including heal those deeply hidden trauma wounds that are driving your bus, making you make regrettable decisions, including pushing away “the right one.” (Ask me how I know!)

You can’t sit on the couch eatin’ potato chips and waitin’ to win the lottery, either physically or spiritually, as I’ve always told my coaching clients. You’ve got to meet Jesus somewhere in the middle. 

“Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness. And all these things shall be added unto you.” ~ Matthew 6:33

That simply looks like studying and living God's Word, and stepping forth in willingness and faith to heal your trauma wounding. No excuses - no one’s parents were perfect, therefore we ALL have some.

It’s only September. Judging by the amount of amazing stuff God has packed into nine months for me, there’s still a ton of time left in the year for more miracles for us all. 

Do you need some miracles? Are you willing to seek Him? No matter what your trauma wounding would have you believe, God will always delight in your coming home to Him, just like the Prodigal son. (Luke 15:11-32)

He, and we, can’t wait to celebrate with you and fill up your life with goodness, including the person He has intended for you, once you’re in an emotional and spiritual place to receive him or her.

Join us, and let’s walk the healing path together with Jesus, our master healer, who often accelerates our healing way beyond what we could do on our own.

My group relationship coaching is on sale right now, only $47 a month for the next 20 members who are serious about their healing. I’m looking to build a founding group that can eventually help me coach. Everything I’m teaching you, including my proprietary music therapy-inspired techniques, I hope you will go out and teach others. 

Or, if you’re interested in relationship or trauma coaching privately… My affordable individual or couples coaching program, Healed and Sealed, gives you unlimited sessions with me for three months.

All the details for either program, group coaching or private coaching, are here on my website:

https://www.liftedby.love 

Whether you work with me or not, I pray that God’s grace settles your heart in ways you never thought possible, and gives you the peace, loving relationships, and purpose you’ve been craving. We’re seeing it every week here at Lifted By Love Coaching.

Yours in Christ,

Robin

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